I was born in 1956 in a small town in California called Barstow. Life was simple in those early years as my family and I lived in the country on a farm. In 1962 my family and I moved to another small town in California called Atwater. This is where I attended school through my high school years. I later moved out on my own to a town called Modesto in California where life became more complicated dealing with working, marriage, friends and relatives. This is where I met the love of my life that I married and was blessed with two of the best children one could ever hope for. Each year began to fly by faster than the last and before I realized it I was in my fifties and my children were adults living on their own.
I now regret some of my early years because I feel I should have invested more of my time in family and friends and less time working trying to “Keep up with the Jones”. I think the first time I realized this was when I lost my brother to cancer, he died much too early in life and it was a wake-up call. I am now in my sixties and just learned my wife has cancer. I have spent the past forty years with her and I can’t imagine life without her. Suddenly I realize just how short life is and how everyone needs to live life to the fullest regardless of circumstances. When you’re living with a life partner it’s easy to take them for granted. Life is hectic which seems to distract you from the things that are most important in your life.
When we were informed by the doctor of her cancer it didn’t seem real. This has always been something that happens to someone else, someone you know but not to you or your wife. It took a while for the news to sink in and realize it was real. Then you are involved in treatment options, medical expenses and dealing with the necessary changes in your life while undergoing treatment. Life seems more hectic due to the stress and the unknown outcome of the cancer treatment.
I decided to quit working and retire so I could spend all my time with my wife. I realize the importance she is to my life and how much my happiness comes from her. This woman always supported me and helped me become a better person in life. She guided me with her wisdom throughout our life keeping me grounded. I know I’m a better person by having her by my side throughout my life. I am dedicated to helping her through life’s journey no matter what we encounter.
I find myself spending a great deal of time praying for her and talking to God regarding her condition. I am a strong believer in prayer and have confidence she will have a positive outcome. If I am blessed to have her in my life for years to come, I will not waste a single moment of it and will have no regrets.
The message I would like to convey is don’t work your life away, spend time with friends and family each and every opportunity you have. If you are fortunate enough to find a life partner that makes you happy, enjoy them to the fullest. Take those vacations you dream about and let them know how much they mean to you each and every day.